Preparing Your Kids for a New Baby

Bringing a new baby into the family is an exciting time, but it can also stir up a mix of emotions—especially for the little ones already at home. If you’re expecting bub number two (or three or four), you might be wondering how to help your older child adjust to the idea of sharing Mum and Dad. The good news? With a bit of preparation and a whole lot of love, you can help make the transition smoother for everyone.

These are a few tips from Baby Gifts Australia to prepare your kids for a new baby in a way that feels natural, loving, and even a bit fun.

Start the Conversation Early

As soon as you’re ready to share the news with family and friends, it’s probably a good time to tell your child too. Kids are incredibly perceptive—they'll pick up on the whispers, the changes in routine, or even your growing belly. Keeping them in the loop helps them feel involved, not left out.

Keep it age-appropriate. Toddlers might not fully grasp what “having a baby” means, but you can talk about how you’re preparing to bring a baby brother or sister home, and one day they’ll be a big brother or sister. Older kids might have more questions, and that’s perfectly normal. Be honest, but gentle. And please remember, there’s no need to overwhelm them with every detail.

Make It Real for Them

It’s one thing to say a baby is coming, but it’s another to help your child see what that means. Picture books are fantastic for this, especially ones that show what babies are like and how families grow. Let your child feel your belly when the baby kicks, show them ultrasound photos, or take them to an antenatal appointment if your care provider allows it.

Involve them in the preparations too. Ask their opinion on names (even if you don’t go with “Thanos”), let them help choose clothes or decorate the nursery, and talk about what babies need and how older siblings can help.

Be Ready for Big Feelings

Even the most excited child might have some wobbly moments. It’s completely normal for kids to feel jealous, confused, or worried about what the new baby means for their place in the family. They might act out, regress in behaviour (thumb sucking or bedwetting), or suddenly need extra cuddles.

Try not to dismiss these feelings. Instead, name them gently: “I can see you’re feeling a bit sad today. That’s okay. It’s a big change, and I’m here for you. I love you” Remind them that your love isn’t divided—it’s multiplied. Some kids feel more secure knowing that their role as the "big brother" or "big sister" is special and important.

Keep Their World Familiar

When the baby arrives, there’ll be a lot of changes—but try to keep your older child’s routines as stable as possible. Stick to regular mealtimes, playtimes, and bedtime rituals, even if it means asking for help from family or friends. Familiar routines offer comfort and predictability, which are both super helpful during times of change.

If there are any major changes coming up—like moving them to a new room, starting childcare, or toilet training—try to get those sorted well before baby arrives or wait until things have settled down afterwards.

Give Them a Job

Kids love to feel helpful. Giving your child a simple “big sibling job” can help them feel important and involved. It might be passing you the formula tin when prepping bottles, singing a lullaby to the baby, or helping to fetch a burp cloth. Praise their efforts and remind them what a great helper they are.

That said, make sure the job is optional and age-appropriate—this isn’t about turning your toddler into a mini parent, just making them feel included.

Schedule One-on-One Time

With a newborn in the house, things can get hectic fast. But even ten minutes of focused time with your older child—without interruptions—can go a long way. Read a book together, go for a walk, or simply chat over a snack. Let them know they still have your attention and affection.

If you have a partner, try taking turns—one of you with the baby while the other spends time with the older child. If you're parenting solo, see if a grandparent or friend can lend a hand so you can carve out that time.

Celebrate Their New Role as a Big Brother or Sister

Becoming a big brother or sister is a big deal, so make a fuss—in a good way! You might give them a small “big sibling” gift when the baby is born, or throw a little “you’re amazing” celebration with cake and balloons. It’s not about spoiling them, but rather reinforcing that their role in the family is just as special as ever.

You could even make a little photo album of when they were a baby, and look at it together. This helps them understand that they had the same love and care, and now it’s someone else’s turn—but it doesn’t mean they’re any less loved.

Be Patient With Yourself Too

Let’s be real—bringing home a new baby is full-on, and juggling the needs of more than one child isn’t always smooth sailing. You’ll probably have moments where you feel stretched thin, or where nothing goes to plan. That’s normal. Be kind to yourself.

Kids don’t need perfection—they just need love, reassurance, and a sense that you’re all in it together.

Preparing your kids for a new baby isn’t a one-time chat—it’s an ongoing journey. There’ll be ups and downs, cuddles and tantrums, giggles and tears. But with patience, open communication, and a little bit of prep, you’ll help your older child embrace their new role with confidence and love.

In the end, you’re not just growing your family—you’re growing their world. And that’s something pretty special.